I have read many definitions of a mentor; but here’s the one that I like and identify with the most: “A mentor is someone with more experience than you in your area of expertise, and who serves as a trusted confidante over an extended period of time.”
In that sense, a mentor is like a coach. A good mentor also helps you to cut short your learning curve.
In this day and age, having a mentor in your chosen endeavour is imperative for you to reach your goal in the shortest possible time. Why would you want to enroll in the “school of hard knocks” when a guide is almost always available to help you along the way?
Treasure #1: Accountability
A mentor is there to ensure that you are “on target.” Many a time, we are actually clear of the task at hand, but nature sometimes takes it course and we tend to “slack off.”
Treasure #2: Affirmation
In the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay, the author recounts how scores of her clients have an ingrained belief of “I am not good enough.”
Most of them formed such beliefs in their early childhood because growing up was rough; no one took them seriously and their parents were always chiding them for doing things wrong.
Treasure #3: Assessment
A good mentor tracks the progress of the mentee. How would you know how far you’ve gone if there isn’t a yardstick to measure progress in the first place? Depending on the discipline or nature of the expertise, different mentors have a different way of assessing the growth of the mentee. It is with the constant cycle of action, review and evaluation that true change is initiated and cemented.
Treasure #4: Advice
Haven’t we all been at the place where we just felt like throwing in the towel?
“It’s too hard! and “I can’t do it!” become the standard mantra in these situations. This is where the experience and counsel of the mentor comes in.
Most mentors would know how to apply coaching techniques to provide the mentee with options, possible solutions and specific directions to carry on. Mentors know that blocks and obstacles are part and parcel of winning the game.
Think Newton’s 3rd Law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Treasure #5: Assets
Regardless of the chosen field, a mentor is able to provide valuable assets to the mentee along the way.
Assets can be in the form of resources like a book, an audio tape or maybe even a specific contact. It is basically a solution to help the mentee press on. Without the advantage of having this quality in a mentor, the mentee can spend precious time “going around in circles” and not really finding the solution to the problem at hand.
If you are serious about achieving mega success in your chosen field, get yourself a mentor. Not only will it save you precious time, it cuts short your learning curve and instills positive habits in your system.
Friends, you become a part of who you are around. When you find a solid mentor, I assure you that the treasures are more than you can imagine.